Setting Goals – Why So Many People Fail

Setting goals

By Nancy Smorch, Foodie Bitch

In trying to help people lead a healthier life, I’ve noticed there are people who will do whatever it takes to be in peak health… and then there are those that aren’t willing to make the changes needed to even marginally improve their health.  Actually, many people I talk with aren’t even willing to make a fraction of the diet and lifestyle changes necessary to move closer to peak health.

Why is it that they say they want to be healthier (lose weight, cut out gluten, decrease the sugar intake, exercise more frequently), yet they fall short of accomplishing their goals?

Over the last couple of months I’ve given this a lot of thought and here are two of the top reasons I’ve found for this discrepancy.

The first reason is lack of clarity of their goals.  As with any area of your life, when you’re setting your goals or intentions, the more clarity you create, the more likely you are to see your intentions become a reality.

One of my favorite quotes (and I have many of them) is the proverb, “Where there is no vision, the people will perish.”

I have definitely seen evidence of this first hand, and on many occasions.  There are certain areas of my life that I am crystal clear about – I tolerate nothing but what is moving me toward that vision.  Then there are areas (multiple) of my life where I have an “idea” of what i’d like to accomplish, but no specifics – just a sea of possibilities and generalities.

Remember that clarity trumps generalities every time!

Examples of weak goals in health would be:

I want to lose weight.

I want to have more energy.

I want to eat healthier.

Although all of these statements sound nice and make you feel like you’re moving in the right direction, they really aren’t setting you up for actually achieving them.  Why?

First of all, they are way too vague.

Let’s take the goal:  I want to lose weight.  Great, lose one pound and call it a day.  Oh, you wanted to lose more than that – why didn’t you say so?  Exactly how much weight did you want to lose?  Let’s say it’s 10 lbs.  Great – but you need to be even more specific.  Is that 10 lbs. over 1 month, 6 months, 1 year, or 10 years?  The time frame you chose is going to dramatically effect the strategy you will use to lose the weight.

If you decide you would like to lose 10 lbs. in 2 months, now you can break it down and see that means you need to lose 1.25 lbs. per week.  Now you have benchmarks and checkpoints to hold yourself accountable and to measure whether your strategy for achieving your goal is effective.  If, for example, by the third week, you’ve only lost 1 lb., you’ll want to re-evaluate your strategy and make some changes.

Let’s take the second goal:  I want to have more energy.  Why are you not likely to accomplish this goal?  Again, it’s too vague.  If you want more energy, drink a Red Bull.  Just kidding, of course, but you need to define exactly what “more energy” means to you so you know exactly what that would like like in  your life and you would know when you’ve achieved it.

How about saying instead, “I want to create a healthy routine and system of food and activity each day so I no longer experience a mid-morning and mid-afternoon energy slump (no need to reach for coffee, carbs or energy drinks).  I would like to start immediately so I have a system that works so within one week, I am no longer experiencing dips in my energy level.”

Much more specific, so much more achievable.

On to the second major reason people don’t achieve their goals:

People tend to do things for one of two reasons – to avoid pain or to gain pleasure (you’ll find most people will do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure).  So you need to look at your reasons for wanting to accomplish your goals and intentions.

In order to set yourself up for success, you need a strong enough “why.”

If you don’t have a strong enough reason, when a challenge or temptation comes up or when everything becomes chaotic in your life, you’ll start allowing breakdowns in your strategy and you won’t reach your goal.  You need major leverage.

Let’s take the example of wanting more energy.  Even if you were more specific about exactly what more energy looked like to you, you still need a big enough “why.”  And telling yourself you want more energy throughout the day so you don’t have to rely on energy drinks may not be a big enough why.  You need to dig a little deeper.

Why do you really want more energy?

Is it so you can be more effective in your job or career which will help you make more money so you can save for the trip you’ve been wanting to take to Italy in the fall?

Or maybe it’s because you want to be fully present with your kids who are growing up so fast.  You want to be able to play with them and be creative and be disciplined with them to create a foundation for a great lifetime relationship with them, and when you are tired, you find yourself snapping at them or setting them in front of the TV or computer to “babysit” them because you can’t focus enough to have a conversation let alone play soccer or go for a bike ride.  Also, if you’re tired, that’s probably the first symptom to show up from an energy deficiency, which if left untreated, could lead to so meting more serious down the road (hormonal imbalance, adrenal fatigue, silent inflammation, gluten sensitivity).  It will be much easier to deal with and correct now than it will be months or years from now when you have many more symptoms besides dips in your energy.

Would these be big enough whys for you?  If not, you need to dig deeper and find out why you really want to achieve your specific health goal (or any goal for that matter).

There are other reasons, of course, that people don’t reach their goals, but these are two of the top reasons I wanted to bring to your attention.  We’re coming up on the end of the year and about to enter into 2015, and this awareness will come in handy as you plan your life for the next week, the next month, the next year, and throughout the rest of your life.

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Sean Croxton’s Podcast with Paul Chek: Healing Fungal and Parasite Infections

Paul CHEK

By Nancy Smorch, Foodie Bitch

I can’t even remember how I came upon this Podcast today, but I’m so grateful I did.  You have to check out Sean Croxton’s podcasts on iTunes.  He’s got an incredible line up of interview and topics ranging from an interview with Dr. Amy Myers: Toxic Mold Exposure, to Marie Forleo: Make Money Change the World, to Adrenal Webinar Q&A with Reed Davis.

The one I gravitated toward and just had to listen to today was Podcast #57 with Paul Chek: Healing Fungal and Parasite Infections.  It was awesome!  I took copious notes and am really intrigued to dive into this subject further.

Sometimes Podcasts or webinars give a lot of general information, but make you buy a particular program or DVD set or workshop to get “the good stuff.” But with Paul Chek, yes, he does have a DVD set they promote on the Podcast, but they give plenty of great, free information, to get you well on your way to learning about and implementing strategies to deal with fungal and parasitic situations in yourself or those you know.

First, parasites can be worms, fungus, bacteria, or viruses.  There are good parasites and there are bad parasites.  We need certain parasites in order to function effectively – these are symbiotic parasites.  With a parasite infection, someone has a population of parasites that have reached the point where they are now regulating the environment they are in.  So if they are in your intestinal tract, they are regulating the pH or the rate of peristalsis using chemical messengers and so on.  When your body cannot kill down the number of parasites to the level to which is favorable for the body to have them, you now have an infection.  The problem with parasites and fungi is that they have weapons that can seriously interfere with the operation of the autonomic nervous system and the immune system.  So it’s like you are taken over by a host whose objective is to eat you (Paul’s words).

I could get quite lengthy here about what I learned, but I suppose I will just list the top 3 concepts I took away from this Podcast, and if these intrigue you as well, you can check out the rest of the Podcast.

  1. Stress is one of the biggest issues in having fungal and parasitic infections.  So, once again, how you perceive stress and process it in your life will have an impact on whether or not you are susceptible to parasites.
  2. Healing yourself from parasites takes quite a bit of commitment and motivation.  To find the motivation, ask yourself or someone else, “What is it that you can’t do right now because of the way they re feeling?”  Or, “What is it that they love enough to make changes for?”  It’s most likely not just a general statement that you don’t have enough energy, but that your lack of energy is preventing you from being fully present with and playing with your kids, or having enough energy at the end of the day to ride your horses or take your dog for a walk in nature.  Once you find out what this is for you or someone you are working with, then you have found what creates enough pain to make you or them want to stick with what is needed to clear up the infection.
  3. Key anti-parasitic tools:  bentonite clay, diatomaceous earth, Oreganol p73, cayenne pepper mixed with honey, frozen cod liver oil capsules, turmeric, garlic, and ginger.

Testing for parasites isn’t always effective, so he recommends that if you have symptoms (lack of energy, brain fog, elevated cortisol, adrenal stress, can’t get going in the morning, skin problems, athletes foot, nail fungus, yeast infection…), then start an anti-parasitic protocol and lifestyle like he lays out in his book and the DVD’s.

I know I sound really geeky here, but this stuff fascinates me!  We’re all creatures living on this planet, and when we create harmony and balance in our own lives, it effects so much more beyond ourselves because we are all connected in so many ways.  Let things get out of balance, and the signs and signals are everywhere.

Are we willing to acknowledge them and make changes, or are we going to give in?  I know which one I choose.  How about you?

Dr. Charles Major on Cancer

As we’ve mentioned a couple of times already, last week was the Natural Cures Movement Webinar that was hosted by Dr. Josh Axe.  Dr. Axe’s conversation with Dr. Charles Majors was one of the discussions that I wanted to bring to your attention.

At 39, Dr. Majors was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer (tumors in his brain) that had metastasized from his bone marrow.  He chose to take an alternative route to address his cancer.  This talk was about that journey.  He wasn’t expected to live through the surgery where they discovered his malignant tumors.  Happily, he’s been cancer free for 4 years now!

Dr. Majors big discussion is that cancer doesn’t make you sick, it’s your sickness over time that causes cancer.  So, if you just get rid of the cancer, even if it’s naturally, if  you don’t heal your body and take care of what caused it in the first place, you’re still sick, and you have a higher chance that it will come back.

So the first step in dealing with cancer, according to Dr. Majors, is not to kill the cancer, but to stop making the cancer.  Something caused what were once normal cells to start making cancer cells, so you need to stop making these cancer cells.

He talks about how cancer is merely your body’s way of trying to survive.  If  you damage something in the body over and over and over again (much like many people do with their diet, their lifestyle, stress, toxins), it’s going to find a way to protect itself.  He used the example of calluses.  If you damaged the skin on the palm of your hand over and over again, the cells are going to adapt to survive, and produce a callus.  It’s a similar scenario with cancer.

So the key is to figure out what caused the normally healthy cells to produce cancerous cells in the first place, and focus on healing that.

His three step approach to dealing with cancer is:

  1. Stop making cancer by getting to the cause – what started it?
  2. Safely and specifically kill the cancer (have to make sure you’ve stopped making cancer also)
  3. Rebuild the immune system.  With a strong immune system, if cancer shows up, it will keep it from getting out of control

I loved his discussion with Dr. Axe, as he got into some more specifics on diet – eliminating sugars and bad fats and adding in smoothies with lots of fresh veggies, nutrients, and healthy fats.  He gets into much more detail in his book, “The Cancer Killers,” than I can go into here, but I would highly recommend that it be in everyone’s tool box – especially as a preventative measure on staying healthy and avoiding multiple diseases.

Here’s an excerpt from Dr. Major’s Facebook page – to just give you a taste of the discussion going on his way:

“”Dr. Majors my husband was just diagnosed with cancer and we are devastated…help?”

The most powerful step after someone is diagnosed with cancer is change your mentality from being a Victim to being a Victor…

MINDSET is the #1 step in preventing cancer, and reversing cancer immediately after being diagnosed!

The state of your mind after diagnosis is why someone can go around for years with a tumor doing great and then gets diagnosed in stage 4 and dies in 6 months! The word “cancer” is one of the most frightening words you will ever hear and when someone is diagnosed- FEAR, WORRY and ANGER set in destroying the immune system.

Psychoneuroimmunology – which is the study of the interaction between psychological processes and the nervous and immune systems of the human body. The power of your mind beats any drug or nutrient to raise the immune system or depress the immune system!

1 minute of anger depresses the immune system for 6 hours and just minutes of laughter raises the immune system for 24 hours!

Studies have shown that people who laugh while watching a comedy had an increase in the dilation of blood vessels by one fifth and the benefits can last up to 24 hours.

Laughter has shown to increase the levels of salivary Immunoglobulin A (IgA), an important antibody which helps to fight various infections, especially those of the respiratory ones (you know nasty they are). Also your defensive cells like white blood cells or lymphocytes, B cells and T cells respond positively to laughter.

Next – what is their mindset like about the treatment they choose-if they think conventional or natural may not work, this affects the way their treatment works. Or if they think chemotherapy and radiation is poison and will KILL THEM then there is a higher chance- it will!

So your state of mind after diagnosis and before the plan of treatment you decide is crucial!

There are people who do chemotherapy and live (may not be as many but there are some) and there are people who do natural and live and there are people who do either and DIE! The key is what your mindset is like before you go into whatever treatment you decide- when Im working with a child (who has to do chemotherapy) or an adult who chooses to do chemotherapy- I go over the any benefits it has (it has capability of killing fast rapidly growing cells), I teach them how to visualize the chemotherapy killing the cancer, I teach them that when they feel that burning pain going through their veins, thats because its so powerful and can kill your cancer! So if one of my pts decides to do chemotherapy/radiation I have to get their body prepared, get their detoxification pathways working at 100%, get their mind prepared and then they follow all the protocols to Maximize the benefits and minimize the side effects of chemotherapy…”

Definitely check him out on Facebook, on his website Be a Cancer Killer, and through his book “The Cancer Killers,” and pass his information on to anyone you know facing cancer!

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